I am one of those who struggles a lot with my friendships, particularly the ones that end abruptly or fizzle out for no reason.
If you are one of the lucky ones who have never faced hardships in friendships, then probably you are a unicorn!!! I heartily congratulate you. But I am pretty sure, we all at some point in our life, have seen friendships that come to an end, which was disturbing and sometimes the most weird thing ever happened to us.
The age of friendship is directly proportional to the loyalty from both person. What actually matter is, how they support each other in hard times irrespective of anything. This Bond is very special. It brings out the best in you. It creates one of the best moments of your life. Friendship is like a refugee camp where we rescue ourselves as well as the other person while fighting wars of our life. Sometimes the most needed support and advice, are given by these fools. Knowingly or unknowingly, they become the inseparable part of our life.
But then what goes wrong, what is the reason that it ends there?
This should not be acceptable for us. This disrupts us and kills inside. It’s a troubling experience. The question is, did the other half is worth the pain that I am going through?
The answer is NO.
I discovered my own strategy to cope with this.
Friends that come to our life, are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
“I was left as Autumn, who lost & shed all its leaves. At this turn of life, I realized it’s just a season. What remains till end, are the Roots.”
Read this twice & Think about it till you get this. I repeat, “Read twice.”
Turning head to all my so called friends, I have had this in my life. I see them as my leaves, who grow n go.
” Yaar jo badal jate hain, Mausam ki tarah”.
Some of them are those who appear as a lesson in our life, no matter good or bad. Just a ‘REASON’. Sometimes it conveys to us what our life want us to learn. Unknowingly help us move forward with something. Sometimes drag us to destruction, sometimes teach us something that was missing in our personality. They remain in our mind. That’s it. They are not worth the memories.
Friendships for a season are the people who are present in some phases of your life.
These are “school wale friends”, “street wale friends “, “Office wale friends” & the list goes on. You connect with them & leave them as the chapters of your life goes ahead.
And then, there comes the Roots. The ones who will be forever with you. The one who will be there for you no matter what. The ones with whom you can go on months without speaking, but still pick up exactly where you left off. They are the ones that just ‘get’ you. These are the long-term friendships that can go through a whole lot of challenges and still come out of the other side unscathed because this one is founded on mutual love and respect for each other.
So whether it is a reason or a season. Just relax. These friendships aren’t bound to last. They are not going to affect your life. Very few of us are lucky enough to have all the friends, the rest of us are living on roots. The forever friends. May be one from family, a teacher, a sibling or even from your work.
Friendships starts the moment you laugh together and ends the moment you deny to cry together. Friendship stays in both health and sickness. It’s okay to let the seasons come and go. This is the law of nature. Find a friendship out of parameters and your comfort zone. A place of love that does not hinge on the approval or quality of the people around us.